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Black Brothers And Their White Chics
POST #1
"Our black sisters in the UK must still be fuming right now, particularly those from the Caribbean islands over this latest ‘affront’, which is like a slap in their faces and a vote of no confidence on their beauty, womanly virtues, and on the other characteristics that brothers look for in women these days.
Ashley Cole’s marriage to Girls Aloud Singer (Cheryl Tweedy) is not surprising, it is consistent with the age old habit of successful black men in the UK, (and in America too I guess) abandoning sisters from their ‘hood, choosing instead to cross over the street and find their love matches amongst white chics. I’m sure some of these sisters, with their hairs tucked nicely under hair driers in Peckham’s many beauty shops, the many others putting finishing touches to their nails, and the ones waxing their faces in the quest to enhance their appeal would be cursing and swearing at the same time, out of disgust and disappointment and thinking out aloud ‘damn, another one taken, what’s with these brothers?’.
Such outbursts may not be surprising as black sisters would normally regard brothers like Ashley and his likes that prefer white chics to their black sisters as lost causes and tormented souls. This habit usually surfaces whenever the going gets good for the brothers, that is when they suddenly realise that their black sisters ‘goods’ aren’t good enough anymore.
But do you really blame brothers like Ashley, and Sol Campbell, his friend and former Arsenal team mate who also had his current white girlfriend (interior designer Fiona Barratt) in tow at the Ashley Cole wedding. This despite his previous weird experiences from his off-and-on liaisons with 44 year-old celebrity interior designer (Kelly Hoppen) which ruined his 2005/2006 football season and almost cost him his football career. And speaking about Sol Campbell, what is it about him and interior decorators? Oh! Plus older women. Weird isn’t it?
And what is it about white chics that lure successful brothers like them away, so much so as to make them forget about all the bootylicious endowments and soul food skills of our black sisters?
Could this be as a result of low self-esteem or inferiority complex on the part of these brothers, a situation where they begin to see the white chics as their passports and tickets to breaking into the traditional and ultra conservative English society, and party circuits, or is it just that the white girls ‘do it’ better than our black sisters?
This is really worrying because it is our black sisters that should be crawling those Soho night clubs and raiding those West end boutiques as footballers’ wives (WAGs), and deservedly too, not these white chics that would use our brothers and eventually dump them when the going gets tough.
Maybe these brothers should speak to Frank Bruno first before getting in on the act of crossing over. The former heavyweight champion probably is still suffering from the stress of separating from his ex-wife who seemed to have jumped ship when Frank’s chips were down. And to think that it is us, the brothers and our black sisters that rallied round him when he was going through his rough patch in 2003.
If you ask me, I think that our black sisters should stage a walkout and protest match at the Soho headquarters of the Football Association (FA), they should also put in their complaints in writing and demand the FA to launch an inquiry immediately into this growing trend of brothers abandoning their roots. If not checked, our sisters would lose all the few good (and rich) men (footballers) still around.
Thierry Henry is already taken, and by whom? Sure you guessed right, by a white chic. Christian Kerembeau, remember him? He was in the French world cup winning squad of 1998; and has been long taken by the supermodel Adriana who now also doubles as his wife. Even young Theo Walcott, the great black hope, didn’t you see his white WAG (acronym for footballers wife and girlfriend invented by the British press, apparently the reasons for England’s poor fortune at the World Cup) hanging out with other WAGS during the World Cup in Germany? Even Jermain Defoe, the petit sized Totenham Hotspurs misfit also always has a white chic in tow.
In fact, all the available black footballers are heavily into white chics, now you see where I’m coming from? This surely is worrying. It is only our black footballers from Africa who still manage to patronize the ethnic community as regards their choice of girlfriends or wives, see how Kalu Nwankwo cleverly went back to his village to capture Amarachi, even Jay-Jay Okocha too; he imported his from back home. I don’t know about Celestine Babayaro, but I sure don’t trust that brother, every time you run into him in a bar or club in London, you will find him in the company of white chics. Sisters, please do us and yourselves a big favour, go grab him now, don’t let him go the way of the others. It’s your money after all; help keep it in the black community. And while you are at it, do a stakeout at Stamford Bridge for John Obi Mikel, it’s always better to catch them young before these white chics capture him too. Afterall, he is now a Chelsea FC football millionaire.
Look at O.J Simpson’s experience in America; surely he didn’t think that Nicole Brown-Simpson was going to be there with him forever, did he? Who wants to hang around an out-of-pocket, has-been football player? When O.J. lost his star power and wasn’t attracting much society gossips and column inches anymore, Nicole walked. Which white chic will endure that kind of humiliation? But our black sisters would, they would always be there, come rain or shine or am I fantasizing here?
This is not to say that black men are not capable of loving white women and vice versa, and don’t you go thinking that I’m racially biased/ No, I am not. I have been with white chics in the past but surely like attracts like. I’m down with our black sisters any day, for reasons that wifey won’t like to see me mention here. Again, don’t call me a racist, we sure do have lots of unmarried sisters in our communities, and it would help our cause if the likes of Ashley Cole do also look their way, as role models to young black men, they should set the pace.
Who says black sisters cannot generate enough column inches and media profile, capable of attracting sponsorships and increased earnings for black brothers? The person should check out Naomi Campbell, a sister like that is capable of reviving dead careers with her on your side. That’s what I’m talking about.
Our Nigerian sisters though may not care a hoot about this because they got it all going and wrapped up for them by our Nigerian brothers, but the challenge also goes to them. Despite all their sme sme and garagara, we are yet to hear of any of them that have landed a big fish since Regina Askia’s misadventure when she married the African-American Rudolph Williams, the marriage has since broken down because of Regina’s continued extra-marital relationship with Charles Orie, a close friend of late Obidiozor Otokoto of the 1996 Otokoto ritual fame.
Our Nigerian sisters should at least show some sisterly love; by showing some concerns and worry on behalf of our Caribbean sisters over the way white chics now grab the few eligible and rich brothers still available. It could be them next. "
POST#2
"I do agree for the most part with the points made in the article Black Brothers And Their White Chics by Uche Nworah. It is common knowledge that successful and wealthy black men almost always settle for white women in England or United States. In one part this is a bit sad for me and many black women especially as an African.
I am Nigerian; I find pride in Africa and black people all over the world. It would make sense to argue that a black man that has finally made it should bring that wealth back to the same community that he left behind, and keep the circle of money within our black communities; marry a black woman perhaps from the many that stood by these men when they were nobodies. This would give such women a chance to thrive and be positive influences to other black people.
These athletes whether they realize it or not are role models to some extent, young black men do look up to them and sort of mimic their styles, dislikes and likes. They wear whatever they wear and also aspire to hang out where they hang out, in the same way, they would attempt to date the sort of women that they date. If successful black men are constantly marrying white women, it does send a wrong message across to young black men that black women are only good when you are poor, once you become someone in life then leave her for a white woman because she is better.
Now one can easily look at this and say that white women are more desirable etc, which is a cop out, with out really looking at the other issues such as the lives of black men and black women in this world. Our history is a very painful one which includes slavery, segregation, apartheid, discrimination, racism, colonization, and prejudice. We have been taught that our lives are not valued, we have been taught to hate every and anything that makes us black and African. Many black women including myself can remember growing up and being so conscious of how we looked, wearing clothes to cover our butts, and biting our lips till they bled so as not to show its fullness. Meanwhile today women line the streets of Soho and New York to get lip implants to look like ours, and butt implants are the rave of the moment thanks to Beyonce. White women now aspire to have a rounder butts, braids are now acceptable as a hair style but they used to be done only by black women as well as locks. (Who would have thought they wanted to look like us all along). But the wealthy black man would rather have a fake black woman with a bronze tan than the real deal.
We’ve all been through it, as much as we as Africans and black people claim that we’ve evolved from the vices of past which kept us down including segregation, which led to the spread of the black liberation movement through out the world, we still have a long way to go to cure ourselves from the brainwashing and emotional wounds that still run deep in us all.
A black man that suddenly becomes successful and feels that a white woman would be his access card to a more successful career, and also provide him access to a society that he still feels he does not rightfully belong has totally lost it. A black man that does this and also feels somewhat equal if you will to the white man by feeling that ‘I now have what you have - your princess, your queen’, and the most desirable of all the white man’s prize. This is nothing but propagating the slave’s mentally of ‘I am sleeping with the Master’s wife’; ‘I am now acceptable in society, I am some one now, I am accomplished’.
I’ve even heard some white women say that they are doing these black men a favor because at least their children would be half white, their lives a bit better than the rest. Unbelievable but some of these white women believe that by so doing, they are serving their own rude justice to the black men.
I am not prejudiced, but do not sincerely believe that every successful and wealthy black man is just falling in true love with all these white women. It is more of “let me just get a white woman” complex. It makes sense that you will fall in love with some one of the same background and similar experiences and commonalities.
Regarding Uche Nworah’s comments that black women should protest and go and grab Nigerian footballers before white women do, he should please give us a break. Does he know how many sisters that may have attempted this? These black brothers don’t even give them a chance, have they finished showing off their new white women (trophies) to the black women? This does not bother me or many black women any more; why? Because any man that does not love who he is and does not want to procreate with another that resembles him has a serious complex, an inferiority complex.
The idea that marrying a white woman is going to further their lives, and secure a better future for their off springs is wrong . I know some men that have this belief that they can wash off their blackness by siring precious mixed race children, those children grow up and marry whites and if the cycle continues, then at some point we may not have black people left. To the black sisters out there, I say let these undeserving brothers go; I do not want a black man like that, neither do other black woman I know want a black man like that. To the black brothers, if you became successful and wealthy without these white women, what makes you think that black women would bring you down?
There are so many beautiful, educated and talented black women out there. Magic Johnson who was diagnosed with HIV twenty years ago still has Cookie Johnson on his side, after he went around cheating her with all these white women and brought home a disease, was Cookie still not there for him? Let him try that with a white wife. The average white chick would want a divorce once things go wrong, and you can not provide these lifestyles anymore but the black sisters would always see it out with their black men.
An American football player is currently having a very bad divorce with his white woman, the brother realized he made a mistake and now wants out, she’s said everything to the public, just anything to ensure her lifestyle is maintained, meanwhile the black brother was married to a black woman before and divorced and the public knew nothing about this, as the black sister maintained her dignity and pride. The white woman of course got pregnant for the guy because that is how she could ensure that she is covered for the next eighteen years. People say black women are gold diggers but I think that white women invented the practice.
As for Kanu Nwankwo, I was proud when I heard that he came home to marry especially being from Imo state. This sort of behaviour would encourage other African footballers to know that it is okay, you too can find love with your own. It’s not just footballers or athletes who marry white chics, Koffi Anan, former secretary of the United Nations and many talented highly educated black men no longer find comfort in their own. It just shows us that despite our many achievements as black people, we still carry psychological and emotional wounds that still plague us today, they say these wounds are the hardest to disappear from our memories. "
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